Then, because there was no one to stop me, I stood up, went into the next room, and got out a jigsaw puzzle, and now you know how I've spent most of the past couple of days.
As I've been puzzling away, my mind keeps circling back to part of the conversation I had with Adam, my onco-psych doctor, last week - he has been helping me (attempt to) keep an even keel as I wend my way through treatment. We were talking about the mental transition from active treatment to living with the aftermath of those treatments. I wondered aloud, "Why am I here? Is there any sort of purpose to my life?"
After we batted this around for a bit, he gently posed the question, "How much of your search for purpose and meaning comes from within, and how much is externally generated; what you've been told by the world what purpose and meaning should look like?"
Dude.
Good question.
From the time I took over managing the household chores, after Mom's cancer came roaring back when I was 15, I've been a do-er. I've done my best to do all the things expected of me, and to do them as well as I could. The world gave me kudos for my efforts. My life had purpose. My life had meaning. They told me it did! And I believed them.
Like a fish in a pond, I wasn't aware of the water surrounding me; that there was anything more. Then the kids grew up and I retired and my sense of purpose and meaning left with the jobs. Then, cancer dropped a leaf on the surface of the pond, and I realized how little of the world I understood.
I'm glad Adam asked the question. For the first time since I found myself wandering about in the liminal space I landed in after my camper van trip was derailed, my musings have direction. Can I become (more) aware of the limits of the pond? Can I begin to winnow my thoughts, to determine what comes from within, and what I swallowed along with the water?
I like these questions. Eventually, I may even come up with some answers. Who knows?
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